Gay & Lesbian Counseling
This is a time of great challenge and great opportunity for gays and lesbians.  It's time to be a healthy, strong individual and a healthy, strong couple.

Are you gay, lesbian, bisexual, or questioning?  I provide counseling and psychotherapy for the issues that are specific to the gay and lesbian community.  I have over 12 years of experience working closely with gay and lesbian clients and couples in the Long Beach and Orange County areas.  Gay and lesbian issues are an area of therapy where finding a therapist you relate to,"click" with, and trust is an even more important and fundamental part of therapy, since it is the foundation for all the work and growth that follows.  Lesbian and gay clients can rest assured that they have found a safe, supportive, affirming therapist with me.

For more information on my work with gay and lesbian counseling issues, please visit my second website, newcenturycounseling.com.

Agreeing to Disagree: 

"If you don't see eye to eye on something, don't fight about it, just accept that with most things there are two rights and two wrongs.  When Michael is more positive about people than I am, I don't feel that I have to bring him around to my way of thinking, haranguing him until he views human nature the pessimistic way I see it.  Instead I accept that two people can have different takes on the same reality, meaning that a pessimist who always anticipates the worst and takes precautions just in case can live comfortably side by side with an optimist who doesn't worry about things that are probably never going to happen anyway.  It's partly that differences of opinion are rarely a big deal.  It's also that if we disagree, that just makes us both birds of a feather that flock together and opposites who attract." 

Martin Kantor, MD.  From "Together Forever: The Gay Man's Guide to Lifelong Love


Are you dealing with any of these issues?  I would be happy to help.

  • Coming to terms with your sexuality
  • Coming out:  how, when, and to whom
  • Finding a good relationship
  • Working through relationship conflicts & difficulties
  • Setting the "rules" and dealing with cheating
  • Coming out later in life, possibly already married to an opposite-sex spouse & possibly with kids
  • Whether or not you should get married to a same-sex partner
  • Are you really right for each other?  Should you get legally married?
  • Depression and anxiety issues
  • Self-acceptance and self-confidence
  • Feelings of shame, guilt, or low self-esteem
  • Feelings of rejection or isolation
  • Drugs, alcohol, and codependency
  • Finding a partner who wants a long-term relationship
  • Mending broken hearts and learning to trust again
  • Anger and arguments
  • Gay parenting challenges
  • Having a healthy, mature, balanced sexuality & sexual expression
  • Sorting out issues of faith and spirituality
  • Rejection by your church
  • Managing difficult relationships with extended family


John McNeill, author:  "Since many lesbians and gay men do not have children of their own, they tend to redirect a vast reservoir of unselfish love into the human community. So great is the reservoir that the world could not bear its loss.

Despite their personal suffering, the loving presence of lesbian women and gay men is the oil that keeps the whole human machine running. If, somehow, gay people were to disappear from the scene, the whole human community would be in danger of being seriously dehumanized."



Gay Couples Are Happier, But Less Affectionate, In Relationships Than Heterosexuals, British Study Finds
From Huffington Post

Great news for same-sex couples: they are much more likely to be happier and more positive about their relationships than their heterosexual counterparts, according to a new British study.

The new survey, which polled about 5,000 people and was published by the Open University and funded by the UK's Economic and Social Research Council, was aimed at finding out how modern couples maintain their relationships despite challenges, according to The Independent.

However, intimate relationships weren't all smooth-sailing for the same-sex couples surveyed. The study also found that same-sex couples were less likely to offer public displays of affection because they feared disapproval, according to the report.

Meanwhile, it also found that childless couples (both heterosexual and LGBT) have happier marriages overall.

The Independent cites one gay source, identified only as 26-year-old Joe, who agreed with the study's overall findings when it came to same-sex couples.

“Although I’ve never received physical or face-to-face abuse, I am very aware of stares and raised eyebrows when holding my partner’s hand," Joe is quoted as saying. "We spent a year saying our goodbyes at home in the morning rather than on the Tube, despite us both traveling in together, out of fear of potential disapproving looks or abuse ... I don’t think we’ll ever feel 100 per cent comfortable in public as a couple.”